Question:
Immature daughter or immature mom??

She is 21. She goes to college and is a great student etc. She was upset at me the other day because I visited my grandmother who has alzheimers and spent about 2 hours with her. I got back and her question to me was.." Do I do something that makes you want to not be here with me"? That was Friday PM. Saturday she goes out with her friends around 4:00 pm and stays out all night with them..she comes home around 10:00 am Sunday only to leave again at 11:30 am and its 9:30 pm and she says she will be home in a few hours. she has to be at work at 6:00 am Monday morning. I am not stressed at the fact she is out. I am not stressed at the fact she has to go to work early in the AM.. (its her sleep she is depriving herself of). My question is.. when she questioned me about me not being here for those couple of hours I was with my grandmother.. should I not ask her the same thing??? or just forget it?

Answer: Basically what you have to do is set some ground rules for your daughter!!! Even though she is 21 years old she still lives in your house. You need to set a curfew for her and other rules. If she does not like the rules then tell her she can act "grown" at her own place. I rest assure you that she will eventually follow the rules. And if she continues to stay out all night change the locks and get your key back.....after all it is your house and you have the final say of what goes on at your house!!! It may seem a little harsh but it work.....at least it did for my sister. Yeah but you are the mother and your daughter has no right to question how long you have been out unless you say that you are going to be back at a certain time then she has a reason to question.....at least for safety purposes!! You should not ignore the situation she is your daughter and if anything you should sit her down and talk to her!!