Question:
Does modern life make us "happiness disabled"?

I have realized lately that as I grow older, I spend a lot more of my free time worrying and being anxious than I do being happy. I worry about normal, everyday things: will I be late for work? What will I cook for dinner? Do my cats have enough food? But I also worry about "big" issues--will I ever be able to afford my own house? Where will I get the money to get married (my parents can't pay, and the bride's father is deceased, so we have to pay for it ourselves)? If I have to move back to California, can I afford the moving expenses? Is my Mother's mental health deteriorating (yes, it is. She has early Alzheimers)? Even when I get "good" news, I worry about it! I found out yesterday that by making my monthly car payments on time for six months, I qualify for a much nicer car. I'm going to pick it up tonight, but I'm still anxious. Does modern life make us incapable of accepting good things at face value? Are we "happiness deprived" by merely living in this society?

Answer: Yes, I think our lives are so full of stress that we find it hard to just be happy. We have everything we need to make our lives easier& more convenient, yet we always seem to want more and then worry about it when we get it. I do my best to not sweat the small stuff and to remember that worrying about things does not change them. It takes time and practice to think this way but it is worth the effort. I try to ask myself "can I do anything to change this situation right now", " is this something that is going to affect my life next week, next year"...if the answer is no, I do my best to put it out of mind and deal with the things I can change or do something about. Remember that happiness comes from within and not from what we have.

I dont agree with you...Todays world is not happiness deprived....people make themselves happiness deprived!! Say u get a goodnews and instead of rejoicing abt it...u start worrying abt the futre attached to it....so here who's depriving the happiness...its you!!! You have to let go of all the worries at times and enjoy the moments u have to the fullest....Say its ur last day in this world and u dont want to regret it thinkin tht it got wated on my worries