Question:
can anyone help me.My mom has Alzheimers.It is literally killing me?

My mom came down with Alzheimers a couple of years ago.She lives 200 miles from me and I cant be there for her as much as I want to.This has strained the relationship between me and my sister.My sister feels that I should drop what I am doing in my life and move back home to help take care of her.My father is the primary caregiver and he has his hands full.I moved away 10 years ago to get away from a drug problem.This was the best thing I ever did.I met a great girl,bought a house and made a life for myself.I have been drug free for about 10 years now and my sister seems to think that I am a piece of **** because I wont move back and help my very overwhelmed father take care of her.My sister is all I have after my parents.She has 3 kids and her hands are full with that.I have no kids but me and my girlfriend have a life too.What do I do?????

Answer: What about a Home Health Aide? Most health insurers will cover it. A Home health agency will put together a team of nurses to come to your parents home and help to over see your mothers care. They will assign A Home health aide to come to the house, or (if your parents can afford that part), she can be a round the clock live in.Her duties will include house keeping, helping to prepare meals,your mothers personal hygiene and overall care. It might not fix everything but it's an option.And at least that way you'll know that your mother is well taken care of.By the way I applaud you for getting clean off of drugs. I know it wasn't easy,and I also know that not wanting to be around that environment again doesn't make you a bad person. It makes you responsible!

Tell your sister your feelings/fears about moving back. Also, offer to help finance "respite" care for your father and sister to provide time/opportunity for them to relax.

Make sure you book out extended visits to assist, and over any financial guidance you can afford. Try and research local churches that offer free respite care, home health services, or the like.